Hello Amy ... this is Fred ... first time call.
You write from experience - and with some wisdom I think.
Though I am of the opposite sex, I concur with much of your analysis of 'partnership-for-life', and like you, I have been through divorce and re-marriage. I congratulate you on your three-years thus far ... and 'going strong'!
I can vouch for the value of choosing 'the right one'.
My 'right one' is called Katie (more accurately, Khatija) and we have been married now for 45 years ... and 'going strong'!
I wrote a song for her the year before we married. It's in a story of mine: A Love Song for My Princess (https://medium.com/illumination/a-love-song-for-my-princess-baae372859db?
By the way, I just wanted to say thank you for choosing to follow me. I have reciprocated.
I hope that we can both continue to write about things that interest, inspire; and bring a touch of happiness into the lives of others.
Maybe we can share each other’s stories with friends and colleagues. It's nice to share nice things, isn't it? I wish you well with your own writing.
May your day be just right for you … all the best to you and yours,
Fred